Excuses, Excuses....you DO deserve it!
It’s okay to be nervous about something when it’s a brand new experience.
We get this fish out of water feeling and we tend to always make excuses out of fear of the unknown, and today I want to go over some common excuses i hear.
Life gets busy for all of us, whether it’s crazy work schedules or no time for ourselves at home, we’re always on the go: Eat. Drive. Cook. Work. Sleep (barely) Repeat.
The brief moments where we do get some time to ourselves, we feel guilty!
We should be spending the time with family or thinking about work. Those things are important, but everyone deserves a little me time every once in a while…don’t you think?
This society guilt trips us when we try to take care of ourselves. So many people are depressed and worn down, always pleasing others, putting others first because they tell us that spending time on ourselves is selfish…mom’s have it especially hard for this! So we are trained to make excuses when it comes to spending on something that’s ‘just for me’
Today’s post is about busting those excuses and hopefully will remind you that, although those are valid reasons, you still CAN do it! More importantly you are totally worthy and deserving of self love. It’s what keeps us going after all!
I’m not photogenic, CANNOT look ‘sexy’ in photos…..this is so NOT ME!!
Well i’m here to tell you that you’re absolutely wrong! This excuse right here is the perfect reason for why you, in fact, should do a boudoir shoot!
You might be thinking that girl i follow on instagram has always got it going on, she must feel like a bombshell all day long, from every angle. No. She doesn’t. I’ve worked with a lot of ‘models’ with huge followings and every single one of them feels like they gotta fake it until they can make it. They all have insecurities. They just know their angles and lighting and work with amazing photographers who hide their ‘problem’ areas so they can look pitch perfect on social media. A little photoshop helps too in some extreme cases.
The problem is (or so i’m told by so many ladies that come in) that we lose our more alluring side when life becomes busy and we grow up. We don’t have the time to get up 3 hours (for some people) and do hair and makeup every single day. You lose that femininity that made you feel confident and sexy, or at least the feeling of it. The good thing is this boudoir shoot will reignite that fire that you thought you lost. It’s still there for some people, burning hot and they want a shoot to capture it, but for others it’s been buried and forgotten and for them, these shoots sets that fire free again!
This is the reason i chose to focus just on boudoir, I was literally changing people’s lives. Ladies who were depressed now had this new found confidence and they started being a “go getter”. It’s amazing seeing these transformations. I’m probably indirectly responsible for a few kids out there that came from this burning confidence. (I take no responsibility for what you do with said fire, once ignited lol)
I’ve seen this happen to friends of mine too who’ve got a shoot done, recently single, they were hitting on their fav bar tender and even showing him previews of the shoot, bare ass and all! Such bravery was unheard of only a few days prior in her world lol.
You don’t have to dress a certain way if that’s just not ‘you.’ Some girls, lace, straps, thongs, BDSM, 10 inch heels, leather is what makes them feel sultry. For others, it’s knee high socks and a comfy sweater is what makes them feel at home. The option to do implied nudity is always there, I work a lot with shadows and shoot dark and moody. Meaning that, you get to show off your curves in silhouettes but the parts you don’t wanna show are still in the darkness. This makes for very alluring mystery woman art that you’d probably hang…(maybe in the bedroom) and if any eyes laid on them, they’d have no clue it was you!
ALSO i do have an accessories closet that’s slowly growing. Think body jewellery. Chains. Gold Harnesses.
So YES. You might not feel like a photogenic sexy person in photos right now. But you haven’t been in my photos yet. So…excuse busted!
I simply don’t have the time right now to take care of myself
I’m guilty of this too, constantly thinking of my business. Never taking an off day without worrying if the bills will get paid. Gotta always be doing something! You have to realize that if you don’t take care of your own mental health it’s much harder to take care of others or your business or your passions. Sometimes we just need to breath. Chores will get done. Groceries will get bought. We’ll call a guy to fix that thing. Just take a moment to relax and slow down.
Once you come into the studio, it’s your time. I treat it like a spa day. In fact, that happens before you even set foot in my studio because we gonna give you a makeover. You’re going to be feeling pampered before you even set foot in the door. I want you feeling like a queen before i tell you to do your first pose!
Stop comparing yourself to others, this is your time to shine! Your worries will slowly melt away when you see the first result. I’ll show you the back of the camera and the weight will just melt off your shoulders. “Ok he knows what he’s doing, i’m a bombshell, let’s do this!”
This is quite an investment, i’m not sure I deserve this. Money’s not good right now either.
“I’m not going to put this book down, it’s my new diamond ring!”
Yes a luxury boudoir experience is an investment, especially if you get the big fancy books that last a lifetime!
Remember this is not just a photoshoot. You are investing in yourself. Your self worth, Your confidence. Your mental health. How you will treat the ones you love even!
I understand that money can be tight some months and it’s hard to justify splurging on yourself. Especially new mom’s. “Put your ego on hold and take care of your kids1” “You don’t deserve to feel sexy. You’re a mom!” That’s what they will tell you! and it’s all hogwash. How are you supposed to take care of others when you are not feeling like the best version of yourself?
Kids do drain the account and i’m here to make your life easier. We offer payment plans!
I’ve had some ladies pay as little as $50 at a time and eventually, they had built up enough credit for a more luxurious package. I’ll cater it to your needs and capabilities. Everyone deserves a luxury experience, especially when we get to create a confident, more bad ass version of you in the process. (and show off pics too!)
I need to lose 5 lbs first
If you’ve been part of our VIP FB group you know that we strive for body acceptance and body positivity. There is no perfect body. We show it all. Stretch marks, cellulite, scars, rolls and all. But what we do practice is amazing coaching and posing! I will not make you look like a new person. Just the best version of you that day. If you’ve got goals and want to get healthy and use the photoshoot as the finish line to your fitness goals. Go nuts! But don’t change and hate the way you are now in order to fit a different mould. Your partner loves this body you have right now! You are unique and beautiful and I will prove it to you. We all go through different stages in life. Our bodies change along with us. Each one of those stages should be celebrated because that’s the journey of life. Be proud of where you are going on that journey. Celebrate where are now and if you do hit your ideal weight, come back again and do another shoot. You’ll get a confident boosting experience both ways and we can celebrate how far you’ve come. Every client, when asked, always says they want to do it again. It’s addictive!
I don’t have the self-confidence so a boudoir shoot must not be for me. I never feel sexy anymore.
EVERYONE at one point or another loses who they truly are and that confidence fades away. It sometimes happens after they have children, a traumatic event, relationship status change, an unsupportive (hopefully ex) partner or due to mental health and body insecurities but it does happens.
So, if you can take anything away from this post, please let it be this. You are worth it. You are worth EVERYTHING! You are all that and a bag of chips!
You are a queen who has lost her light and crown and that is ok, let us help you find it again. Let’s help you fall in love with yourself all over again and feel that confidence in yourself even if only for a moment. Take the plunge and let us show you what others see in you already! That fire in your belly just needs to be reignited, it just starts with a little self love and the belief that YES you can do this!